Suara Hati Ayahku

salam

Partner? there are so many partners in our life. At home, at work, at our neighbouhood etc etc but today let me touch about our closest partner of our life. Who else? Our spouse. Hate or love it ..we are just partners in this life.

Me? Got married 30 years already. Blessed with 6 children. Another blessing comes 3 new members join our camp through marriage/ new birth after marriage.

My best partner is of course my wife. I call her Mem (laugh). Her greatest attribute is she knows my routine very well. If after subuh prayer . she prepares our breakfast consisting of friend rice, boiled eggs, kelloggs cornflake etc etc .. but overall her work is just superb. If I go for dakwah she is the one who prepares my bedding (toto, blankets, extra clothings, soap, toothbrush, thick socks etc etc). Another good point about her is .. she can cook very well. Kelantanese food (kurtuk daging, nasi kerabu hitam, masakn perut, etc etc ) and other western and indian pakistani food like chepati and sheek kebab. Because of this I make it a point to invite my students to my home for dinner and sometimes to break their fast (ramadhan).

Although she has 1000 good points ..she also have one/two weak points. But I hate to elaborate that because 2 bad points out of 1000 good points ... what is that right mathematically? Just ignore ..focus on her other 998 great points. By doing that we can move forward towards eternal happpiness (god willing).

Daily we read about superstars ..one minute getting married in big grand hotel abroad and the next minute they are in the thick of battles .. suing each other in the court using all kinds of lawyers ..fighting for their respective rights.. and children. Inspite of their popularity and fame they could not hold to their marraige .. why>? they focus on 998 bad points and overlooked the ggreatest 2 other points their spouses have. In fact they are indeed very blind. Just because his wife could not cook tandoori and sheek kebab .. the husband smacked the head of his wife and thee comes all the beef, mutton, curry , flying over the kitchen hall. In Malaysia, we heard cases of the wife getting divorce because the wife cannot cook very well examples frying salted fish - ikan gelamo ikan kering, belacan paste - sambal belachan, .. and the peak of disaster.. they blamed each other because they come from different caste ( kasta) like brahmins and paria. Why is this so? Beacuse they got married due to .. (yardsticks) not accordingly to what our Holy Prophet had advised us to heed to . First iman, beauty, well to do family, knoeledgeable. take iman as the biggest and strongest pulling factor in our marriage - it will help you in distress later in your live.

See? Please ponder and let me know if you do not agree with me plz.

Wasallam.