Salam. To start with you must have at least a baby that grows into a boy/girl and sooner s/he turns into an adult.
I am blessed by Allah The Main Creator of all creations - have 6 children by the age of 37. The eldest is now undergoing his masters degree in UTM with USM scholarship effective July 2010. The next is a petronas engineer, next is my sarah teaching mathematics in SMV Bukit Minyak Butterworth , next my favourite daughter AA teaching practicals TESL in Kota bHaru now , the next come E-in doing his medic matrics in UIA and the last doing PMR this coming Sept/Oct 2010. Their mum is also studying arabic and likes to read Al Quran all the time. She confessed that she is getting older and older all the time. Based on this feeling she like to watch hindustani films which is mostly sad stories. If I stay with her in front of the tube, I will surely sleep. It is so boring to watch sad sad sad stories. Their dad? I cannot think like my mem because I feel very young every day because my stdents are always 18 plus at diploma IT courses every July in evey year. I like to feel young because by feeling so I can impart good effective instructions to my students. Aghh forget about that ...lets get to my main point. To be an effective and good parent I have instilled in my children few important points:
(i) strict discipline. I used to 'rotan' (beating) my eldest boy very very very hard because he threw his sister's shoes on top of the roof. Rumah Kerajaan di Jalan Telipot. So of course he cried like hell and his mum just could not do anything. Luckily there was no METRO paper that time. If there was, Menteri Dato Shahrizat would be chasing after me.
(ii) i meant what I mean : I used to leave my children at home if they are late getting into the car (Toyota Corrolla KE70). If they did not get in by 0700 am of course I left them although it was their first paper in the final examination at school. So after that incident, they were very punctual with getting bath, doing subuh and taking breakfast
(iii) i spent my most money on education. I did not mind going broke in buying good books even though the books had to come from abroad. After buying the books I like to read them with my children at their beds. I would try very hard to Explain the diagrams and pictures from the books.
(iv) i spent my maximum time teaching my own children in all subjects like mathematics and english. I drew many pictures and from those pictures I made up many stories using new words and ..of course they learnt English very fast that way. I tested them spelling. And sometuimes I asked Angah to go to the white board and spell the word 'menstruation'. With the word I explain basic biology to my children even though they were still very young at that time.
(v) in the car during our short journey to school, we read Quran from the last 10 surahs. We read that every day. By doing so, this soften the heart of my children. In the mean time, I talk good about day to day life as a good and intelligent muslim every where we are and in all circumstances. Poor or rich.
(vi) i like to play football with my boy. He learnt the skills in kicking the ball very fast since the coach (their dad) was a district football player in Besut, first eleven at Nottingam Malaysian Society and 1st seven in futsal in Leeds Universiti Dept of Computer Science. I taught them all the arts of dribbling, tackling and free swerving free kicks like the Brazilian Rinaldo 1970s.
(vi) lastly I always make it a point to go for the dusk and dawn prayers in the masjids with my boys Sobirin and Solihin. Our favourite masjid was Masjid Kampung Sireh. Here we can see many poor trishaw pullers and Kpg Sireh flat dwellers. I did not like goingto Telipot mosque becuase there there were too many pensioners who were once working as big shots in KL, JB and many more. I did not want my children to mix with well to do people. I wanted them to know how lucky they were growing in a modern educated family who were once a poor kid himself. By obseving these steps I raised my family of 8.
(vii) I also visited my old parents every Friday and Saturday evenings. I enjoyed seeing the smiles of my das and mums face while they were playing with their grand children. We brought friend banana, fruits and juices. This instill the love of my children towards their grand parents. It was a must for me to obey my late dad's wish at all circumstances what come may. Tsunami or blizards.
Thats it. As simple as ABC. I did not like to send my children to any motivators especially summer camps because I did not believe with mountain climbing programme during the rainy season. More over it was very expensive for me. Since i am the only one working I have to do many things my self to cut down expenses. Examples of spending thriftyly was : my boys and girs have to share most things together especially their books, food and clothing. Their mum is a good cook western, cepati, nan , kelantanese food and sumatran dishes. As a result I always make it a point to invite my poor students to enjoy ramadhan food at our homes. At this point I always appreciate my wifes willingness to cook the food for the guests. I told her "..if you provide food for the others then Allah will provide you with better food in the heavens..insyallah". Thats it .. Hope you readers can get some tips there. There is actually no short cuts. From hardship we can instill good virtues among our new generations.
TQ. wasallam.
Salam. Belum sempat saya jawab apa-apa berkenaan dengan post blog saya ramai Profesor dari dalam dan luar negara telah pun menjawab apa yang bimbangkan selama ini rkenaan dengan PMR dan UPSR - mansuhkan atau tidak?
Salah seorang dari mereka ialah Dato' Sri Dr Wan Zahid bin Wan Mohd Noordin mantan KPP Malaysia. Beliau adalah Pengarah Pendidikan Negeri Kelantan pada tahun 1983 - 1988. Disebabkan dia adalah graduan PHD dari Berkeley Universiti California dan saya hanya graduan PHD dari UTHM Johor .. saya rasa jawapannya sajalah kita semua ikut. Ok tak? Tanda hurmat kepadanya disebabkan dia jugalah saya sampai ke FTMM, UTHM ini.
Beliau merupakan boss saya di JPNK / PSPN Negeri Kelantan. Untuk makluman tuan Dato Sri sangat berminat belajar komputer Apples dan bermacam-macam lagi. Dari ideanya lah negeri Kelantan memperolehi lebih dari 60 unit komputer Apple //e di tiga pusat komputer daerah Kota bHaru, Pasir Puteh dan Tanah Merah pada tahun 1986. Dan saya bersama-sama dengan PP Matematik Sains pada masa itu Tuan Hj Abd Ghani Mat merupakan kuda-kudanya yang sedap ditunggang habis-habisan bagi menjayakan program Pendidikan Komputer di PKD Kelantan. FYI many proposals on computer education saya yang buat tetapi PP maths sains jugak yang dapat nama hingga dihadiahkan melancung sambil bekerja di Japan. Wah sedak mu! Di saat-saat ini saya rasa saya tak perlu komen apa-apalah kerana Dato Sri Dr Wan Zahid juga adalah panel utama interview saya di Kuala Lumpur bagi proses mendapatkan biasiswa luar negara bagi maksud pengajian sarjana Komputer saya di Univ of Birmingham England 1993/1994.
Terima kasih banyak-banyak Dato Sri.
Muga-muga kita dapat berjumpa lagi. The last was we met in COSMED International Conference in Recsam Penang Nov 2009. Your opening speech was really great. I like your new coined terms like shifted paradigms etc etc. You never change in terms of giving out greats speech. Great to know you Dato Sri.
wasallam.
Salam. Sebagai seorang bapa saya kurang bersetuju kerana:
1) gaji semua guru di SRK, SK, SMK, dan macam-macam jenis sekolah di Malaysia ni sudahpun tinggi dan selalu menikmati kenaikan gaji yang lumayan dari tahun ke tahun.(check papers B.Harian dari tahun 1995 - 2010). Tengok berapa kalikah gaji guru-guru dan kaki tangan kerajaan naik. Dashat - ada yang telah mengalahkan gaji seorang engineer di industri dan berbagai bagai profession yg bergelar profesional. Dengan sistem pendidikan yang berkesudahan dengan 'tanpa peperiksaan' ini saya rasa tepat. Bagusnya jika gaji naik maka kualiti dan kuantiti kerja pun naik seiringan. Barulah rakyat jelata yang lain tidak merasakan apa-apa cemburu.
2) semua orang ada target. Contohnya tiap-tiap hari kita sebagai ayah ..akan berpesan kepada anak di luar pagar sekolah .. " belajar betul-betul sayaang .. score exam tau!" . So tanpa exam ..saya rasa bapa tidak perlu pesan apa-apa lagi. Bukan kah ini satu benda yang gila? Bapa berpesan kepada anak supaya skor di dalam exam kerana kita bukan orang kaya. Tok nenek kita bukan raja-raja, sultan-sultan yang memiliki banyak tanah termasuk jugalah kuncu-kuncu kita ( orang-orang FELDA) yang tiba-tiba ada tanah tetapi sayangnya generasi kedua dan ketiga mereka lebih berminat merempit dari menyabit hasil sawit mereka. Teringat saya "..Hanya keputusan peperiksaan yang cemerlang sahaja lah yang dapat mengubah nasib hidup kita dari kalangan orang-orang Melayu yang susah". ( Tun Razak, 1972)
3) pendidikan tanpa assessment/pengukuran. Kita nak ukur sejauhmana anak kita faham matematik topik theorem pathagoras contohnya. Jadi cara nak tahu kefahaman anak kita adalah melalui QUIZ, UjIAN dan Peperiksaan Akhir Tahun seperti PMR lah. Tak kan kita nak bawak dia dan akawan-kawan dia try ..formula itu di depan satu parit tali air di Sungai Besar, Selangor dan kita uji semua rumus theorem tersebut di tempat yang bahaya ini. Silap-silap tergelicir budak ini di tali air dan mati lemas just because .. Malaysia dah tak ada exam dah PMR dan UPSR. Depa pi sekolah suka-suka jer. Di sekolah kita tak nak - Guru pandang-pandang kat anak kita dan anak kita pandang guru-guru mereka. Bayangkan sebuah sekolah menengah yang populasi guru adalah 80% guru wanita yang berumur kurang dari 35 tahun ke bawah. Sure anak cerita kat kita bapa dan ibu di rumah .. ada lagi cikgu yang cuti bersalin bah .. Argh! Payah kita nak jawab soalan Biologi ini. What a scenario will that be like in the coming years 2012 to the year 2015?
4) Saya merasa Pak Menteri Pendidikan akan akur dengan kehendak guru-guru ini kerana .. undi pilihan raya sangat besar dari warga guru. Mengikut statistik terdapat 800000 guru bauat masa ini. Bayangkan. Jika guru gembira dan mereka memangkah BN .. sudah tentu Pak Menteri pak Menteri BN akan merasa .. dunia ini ana yang punya. He..he.. Baru-baru ini Pak Menteri dah akur dah .. PPSMI mengajar matematik dalam Bahasa Inggeris. Disebabkan guru-guru matematik ramai yang tak fasih berbahasa inggeris bila mengajar matematik..maka program PPSMI ditukarkan kepada .. matematik dalam bahasa ibunda pula. Tengok lah kelam kabut kita ..sebagai seorang ayah .. banyak dah modal kita kat rumah beli kamus/ tape Linguaphone / hantar tuisyen dengan guru India Serani belajar bahasa Inggeris/ supaya anak-anak mampu mengikut pelajaran matematik sains dalam bahasa inggeris ..tiba-tiba .. semua pelaburan itu .. terbuang begitu sahaja. Dengar khabar untuk PPSMI sahaja kerajaan sudah berbelanja lebih dari 1 billion RM dah. Ohhsss.. dashat ..now schooling tanpa exam pulak! Ajaib?
5) Sekolah Asrama Penuh dan MRSM kita nak isi pelajar bagaimana pulak? Adakah melalui 'crony dan cronism' sahajakah? Atau pendidikan UPSR dan PMR akan menjadi internal school assessment sahajakah? Penat guru-guru kita nanti. Jika pendidikan kita buat tanpa UPSR dan PMR ..saya rasa banyak pelaburan kerajaan dan rakyat membina SMS dan MRSM .. terbuang begitu sahaja. Dan besar kemungkinan ramai guru-guru SMS dan MRSM akan mula berhijrah pulang mengajar ke kampung halaman mereka masing-masing. Hilang sudahlah rasa seronok dan glamur mengajar SMS dan MRSM lagi. Bagaimana pula MCKK, STAR, RMC, TKC dan STF? besar kemungkinan nama-nama sekolah ini hilang kehebatan mereka dek makan usia dan zaman yang terus berlalu.
Itu sahaja lah ..coretan saya pada hari jumaat ini. Insyalalh bila ada waktu yg lapang lagi saya akan menulis lebih mendalam lagi side effect/impak , analisa bagi tiap-tiap perkara di atas. Harap maklum, ini adalah penulisan dari se orang ayah bapa kepada 6 orang anak dan bapa saudara kepada 50 orang pelajar-pelajar yang kini berada di SK-SK. Saya tidak bersetuju sangat sekolah tanpa UPSR dan PMR ini. Tempoh ujian dari darjah enam ke tingkatan 5 akan menjadi terlalu lama. Mood budak-budak pintar akan hilang dan terus luntur untu mencapai kecemerlangannya. Bagus sangat jika mereka diuji dan dididik dengan baik dan akhlak dan berhimah tinggi di dalam payung ajaran islam yang murni. Wallahu alam.
Sekian. wasallam. Renunglah nasib anak-anak kita ini.